Love is Real: The Blog

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Remembering

David and I had been living in different cultures.  Twenty years ago, what were peripheral holidays in France were major occasions in the United States, thanks in part to Hallmark and other corporate marketing strategies.   When he visited me in the United States and I observed celebrations with food and festivities, he enjoyed them and I (wrongly) assumed he understood how much joining in such national or religious rituals meant to me.  (They still do - see my initial post [...]

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Choosing

  Where to go? What route to take?  Photo by Antranias Every day we make countless choices, some consciously and many unconsciously.  Do we look at our motivation?  The consequences of the countless decisions that affect our relationships?  Through them, we are forever balancing closeness and distance, self-interest and that of the one whom we love.  What do we need and want?  What does the other person need and want? With the transition to parenthood, we learn to [...]

March 3rd, 2017|Aspects of Loving, Life, Refracted, Psychology|

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Listening

"Le Cri" by Auguste Rodin, Musee Rodin, Paris This morning my husband and I had one of our rare fights.  He asked me if I had seen anything interesting during my online skim of The New York Times  morning  headlines. I began to describe my reaction to an Op-Ed piece written by Alexa O’Brien about Amazon’s use of the helper technology that shares her name, a reference to the Greek goddess who defends and protects.  I was explaining what [...]

February 22nd, 2017|Aspects of Loving, Close Relationships, Life, Refracted|

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Sharing

A Swedish proverb promises: “Shared joy is double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.”  Experiences of sharing — anything from a troubling dream to an ice cream cone — can show “I Love You” across cultures, gender, age.  A two-year old will reach out her hand to offer a turn at a toy to someone she trusts and wants to see smile; a romantic relationship takes a step forward when one person offers a sip from his or her drink to the other [...]

February 18th, 2017|Aspects of Loving, Close Relationships, Life, Refracted|

52 Ways to Show I Love You – #2, Touching

To make us more aware of all the ways we can make love real, that we can show "I Love You" both with and without words, each Sunday I am posting a piece on describing the what, how and why of another way to express love.  Today's entry describes "Touching" and appears here.   Please send me your own stories of ways you show love or feel it coming from someone else.  I will keep track of them and [...]

January 8th, 2017|Aspects of Loving, Close Relationships, Psychology|

52 Ways to Show I Love You, Inaugural Column

Today, I am delighted to wish you a Happy New Year.  May the year 2017 bring you excellent health, many joys, and the very brightest of discoveries.  I am also delighted to share my first column for "52 Ways to Show I Love You", written for my blog on Psychology Today, "Life, Refracted".  You can sign up to receive the column directly from Psychology Today on that page or on my own website.  If you sign up to automatically receive [...]

Christmas Concert Showcases Countless Careers

Last night David and I attended a concert at the Maison de Radio France.  David had purchased tickets months ago, securing seats in the first balcony of the magnificent renovated Auditorium, reopened on November 14, 2014.   Architecture combined with aesthetics to render acoustics astonishingly clear.  After a short walk from where we stay when in Paris, we arrived on a balmy December night to join others in the reassuring Security lines in front of the main entrance.  Soon seated in [...]

December 25th, 2016|Beauty, Inspiration, Paris & France, Uncategorized, Work|

Blog posts missing – why and what’s coming soon!

Dear Reader, I have been neglecting this blog for weeks, ever since I began posting more scholarly or professional pieces as a regular column, “Life, Refracted”, on   The links to those essays appear on this website, under “Articles and Essays”.  How did this come about? In the spring of 2016, in support of Miracle at Midlife:  A Transatlantic Romance, my publicist suggested I write “10 Things About Long-Distance Love”.  Soon I realized that I had far more than ten [...]

December 18th, 2016|Aspects of Loving, Close Relationships, Psychology|
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