Close Relationships

Silence Can Have Several Meanings

People can sensitively show love by accurately understanding the many meanings of silence.  Before they can respond with love (the topic for next week), they must be able to distinguish among silences that are active listening, time for reflection, avoiding creating distraction, an invitation to communion, attention being elsewhere, delaying confict, or expressing anger.  For details, please visit the latest, "52 Ways to Show I Love You: Identify the Meanings of Silence", by clicking here.

Providing Care is Such a Vivid Way to Show Love

Source: sathyatripodi/Pixabay When a person is dependent - young, old, ill, disabled - or fragile or simply in need of outside help, providing the care that they need can show through actions in a resounding way.  At one extreme, it reflects "Compassionate Love", that altruistic and selfless behavior in which someone else's needs can take precedence over our own.  To read "52 Ways to Show I Love You: Caring and Caregiving", click here.    

Expanding the Circle of Those you Love Can Make Love More Real

When we expand our couple's embrace to include those we love beyond it, we can bring more joy into our own hearts and those of others.  Doing so may have challenges but the efforts are always worthwhile. See what I wrote about "Expanding the Circle" on Life, Refracted, by clicking here.

Show Love by Considering a Different Point of View

When you take the time to listen to and consider a loved one's point of view, you show them respect and love.  Types of psychotherapy developed over the past fifty years have increasingly stressed the value of changing perspective.  But just as shifting how you think about something can enhance your own well-being, it can enhance understanding, appreciation, and intimacy in a love relationship.  To learn more, read "52 Ways to Show I Love You: See a Different Point of [...]

Remember the Magic of Having Fun

Think back to when you were a child.  Chances are that activities that brought you joy then still do.  I loved reading, biking, learning to cook and sew, playing with my dog, dressing up, learning the joy of riding a horse., visiting a museum.  These are activities that delight me decades later, most of which I can share with David.  One way we keep our love so alive is to make sure we include ways to have fun together.  To [...]

August 4th, 2017|Categories: Aspects of Loving, Close Relationships, Life, Refracted|Tags: , , |

52 Ways to Show I Love You: Provide Comfort

source: jill111-Pixabay As infants, we suffered distress to teach us to reach out for comfort.  We formed expectations for whether or not comfort would be provided consistently and with generosity of spirit.  Those expectations form the basic data for "Attachment theory", long ago validated in infants and documented in adults for decades.  But regardless of our attachment styles - and thus expectations - we still can require comfort as adults.  When love in the form of comfort is [...]

One of Our Earliest Ways of Feeling Loved Was When We Felt Protected

Source: paulbr75/Pixabay Knowing when and how to protect someone we love — from their inner dangers, from outer threats, from the seemingly random accidents than occur — is an intuitive way to show love.  So, too, is knowing when to step back and leave room for them to care for themselves.  To read about "52 Ways to Show I Love You - Protecting" in my Life, Refracted blog, click here.

July 14th, 2017|Categories: Aspects of Loving, Close Relationships, Life, Refracted|

When Miracles Occur, Look for the Love

Source: paulbr75/Pixabay When I saw the video that I included in the post below, I felt filled with awe.  Technology can indeed be an amazing tool - but it was the love shown by the parents and staff and then by the children themselves that allowed the actual miracles to take place.  Love is most definitely real.  To read and watch the post from Life, Refracted, click here.

The Day I Took the Earlier Train I Felt Giddy with Loving David

People feel loved in different ways but showing always beats telling. Running for that train, I knew I was running to show love.  Read my post in Life, Refracted  to see how gleefully we can express love through showing it, rather than talking about it.  For 52 Ways to Show I Love You: Take an Earlier Train, click here.

June 30th, 2017|Categories: Intimacy, Life, Refracted, Marriage|

Showing Love Through Creating Together

Creating helps a person tap into the spirit within and that in the universe.   Doing it alongside someone you can trust and respect allows space for love to blossom and expand.  See my Life, Refacted post on showing love through creating together by clicking here.

June 23rd, 2017|Categories: Close Relationships, Inspiration, Life, Refracted|
Facebook Auto Publish Powered By : XYZScripts.com