Aspects of Loving

Remember the Big Picture

pexels/Pixabay When you take a step back and look at your life as a whole - who, how and where you were born, grew up, lived, knew - or what you valued, how you learned, the people whose lives have touched your own and whose lives you have touched - you may well see a thread that is pulling you towards a larger purpose.  Sometimes we need to remind ourselves of who, why and how we love to [...]

2018-01-31T21:03:55+00:00November 3rd, 2017|Categories: Art, Science & Metaphysics, Aspects of Loving, Life, Refracted|

Addressing Conflicts Helps Love Grow

Source: amarpreet25/Pixabay Conflict between two people is inevitable. When conflicts of time and place, demands, priorities, power, planning  or how much closeness is optimal erupt, sensitive responses can build understanding and increase faith in the strength of the relationship.  To read 52 Ways to Show I Love You:  Address the Conflicts in "Life, Refracted" on PsychologyToday.com, click here.

Create Meaningful Rituals to Express Love

Source: jill111/Pixabay Meaningful rituals are activities we engage in with intention. They can bring us reassurance, reflecting commitment, and can comfort us in times of trial.  Read my latest post for "Life, Refracted" on PsychologyToday.com, 52 Ways to Show I Love You:  Create the Right Rituals, by clicking here.

2018-01-31T21:03:55+00:00October 20th, 2017|Categories: Aspects of Loving, Life, Refracted, Well-Being|Tags: , , |

Be Sensitive to Culture When Offering Love Through Food

Source: Alexa/Pixabay We have many choices in how we feed the bodies, minds and souls of those we love. In this post from Psychology Today's "Life, Refracted", I explore the role that culture plays in making those choices and in assuring that they are meaningful, whether we are nourishing someone through food and drink, information, energy or inspiration. To read the post, click here.

Differences Sometimes Demand Accommodation

Source: janeb13/Pixabay When differences resulting from limitations or preferences, wants or needs, or simply the extent of intimacy desired, present challenges to people who love each other, accommodation can be called for. Dealing with them with sensitivity and care can show love in a powerful way. To read my "Life, Refracted" post in PsychologyToday.com about this topic, click here.

2018-01-31T21:03:55+00:00September 15th, 2017|Categories: Aspects of Loving, Life, Refracted, Psychology|

Silence Can Have Several Meanings

People can sensitively show love by accurately understanding the many meanings of silence.  Before they can respond with love (the topic for next week), they must be able to distinguish among silences that are active listening, time for reflection, avoiding creating distraction, an invitation to communion, attention being elsewhere, delaying confict, or expressing anger.  For details, please visit the latest, "52 Ways to Show I Love You: Identify the Meanings of Silence", by clicking here.

Providing Care is Such a Vivid Way to Show Love

Source: sathyatripodi/Pixabay When a person is dependent - young, old, ill, disabled - or fragile or simply in need of outside help, providing the care that they need can show through actions in a resounding way.  At one extreme, it reflects "Compassionate Love", that altruistic and selfless behavior in which someone else's needs can take precedence over our own.  To read "52 Ways to Show I Love You: Caring and Caregiving", click here.    

Expanding the Circle of Those you Love Can Make Love More Real

When we expand our couple's embrace to include those we love beyond it, we can bring more joy into our own hearts and those of others.  Doing so may have challenges but the efforts are always worthwhile. See what I wrote about "Expanding the Circle" on Life, Refracted, by clicking here.