Psychology

Loving the Little Girl Inside Me

French T-Shirt We took a ridiculously long time to get to know, respect and honor each other.  For years, I pushed her aside, unconsciously trying to silence her with bribes of ice cream, candy, and other high calorie sleep-inducing treats.  Sometimes I gave her chocolate when she needed enough energy to get something done. I refused to consider her worthy of legitimate claims on my attention and energy. Once the adult in me earned enough money to [...]

2018-01-31T21:04:04+00:00August 29th, 2016|Categories: Children, Development, Self-Love|Tags: , |

He Risked His Life to Prevent a Jump Off a Bridge

         A  recent local news release brought the story of Nicholas Doddo, a college student, who risked his own life to save that of another young man whom he had never seen before.  Sitting in Friday evening traffic on the Tappan Zee Bridge, Mr. Doddo had suddenly realized that someone was racing headlong to the barrier with the intent of jumping over it to his inevitable death.  Mr. Doddo’s instincts led him to leave his car, cross traffic lanes in [...]

A Passion for Yoga Creates Serenity and Inspiration

What does it mean, “to love”? Usually we associate the word with living creatures and feelings and the actions that transpire between them. A parent feeding an infant. An old man walking his also aging dog daily. A tribute to a particularly valued teacher. But “love” can describe any fierce attachment that goes beyond words, any passion that is dictated by the heart. I have written on love of one’s work, and will address love of one’s home and love [...]

2018-01-31T21:04:21+00:00July 5th, 2016|Categories: Passion in Activities, Well-Being, Yoga|Tags: , , |

Why You CAN Marry the Right Person!

Alain de Botton wrote an opinion piece that appeared in the New York Times “Sunday Review” on May 28, 2016, Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person. The article sparked a slew of letters in response.  Because I am convinced that I married a man who was and is very much the “Right Person”, I want to add my own voice and reflection – along with a song by Linda Worster – that captures my own dissenting opinion. Mr de Botton makes [...]

The Roots of Empathy Lie in Temperament and Attachment

To the best of my knowledge, the mother of six week old twins took the video below, documenting empathy, without the help of Photoshop or any other video-altering aid. I cannot imagine it as being staged.  Six weeks old babies simply would not tolerate being tinkered with in such a manner, even to please the one who provides their care.  I found the video remarkable because, at an age in which learning is mostly about how to recognize caregivers, smile as [...]

A Dentist Finds Meaning in His Work

I watched him carefully contour the temporary crown. He wore magnifying lenses on his forehead while four high-speed tool cables neatly arched across his tray. His assistant carried out requests with the precision of a long-time loving partner who honors his mentor. My dentist sanded and polished, turned and shaped the provisional molar cap that he had created with a malleable impression material. I could feel his love for his chosen work. and wondered if perhaps he had a genetic [...]