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The Roots of Empathy Lie in Temperament and Attachment

To the best of my knowledge, the mother of six week old twins took the video below, documenting empathy, without the help of Photoshop or any other video-altering aid. I cannot imagine it as being staged.  Six weeks old babies simply would not tolerate being tinkered with in such a manner, even to please the one who provides their care.  I found the video remarkable because, at an age in which learning is mostly about how to recognize caregivers, smile as [...]

Measurement Affects What We Believe

The last four years have seen two major breakthroughs from astronomy that will forever alter our world view. In March of 2013 the CERN officially announced the results of two sets of experiments at its Large Hadron Collider that had been unofficially publicized several months earlier (http://home.cern/topics/higgs-boson). A new particle named the Higgs Boson, perhaps occurring in different variations, was identified as responsible for mass and its transformation. The Higgs Field in which it occurred was not an electromagnetic one. [...]

Silent Art Speaks So Loudly

During the winter of 2016, le Centquatre in Paris, a space dedicated to experimentation in the arts, sponsored a program devoted to “The Materiality of the Invisible”. A dozen visual artists explored ways in which what is invisible to the human senses can be seen through relationships between humans and their environment, memory, and the intersection between art and archeology. I found “Les Imperciptibles”, three installations by Johann Le Guillerm, particularly mesmerizing. The artist used only natural materials like wood [...]

A Service Dog Supports his Companion

Sasha the service dog snuggled into the arms of his temporary guardian, Richard. The ten year old bichon had come to the hospital with his companion, Jefferson, who was there for tests that could determine whether he was a candidate for a surgical procedure that could measurably improve his quality of life. My heart melted as I petted Sasha, scratched his ears, and looked into his big black eyes. Luke had died four years ago this month after seventeen and [...]

2018-01-31T21:05:06+00:00April 30th, 2016|Categories: Caregiving, Character, Human-Animal Bonds|Tags: , , |

A Dentist Finds Meaning in His Work

I watched him carefully contour the temporary crown. He wore magnifying lenses on his forehead while four high-speed tool cables neatly arched across his tray. His assistant carried out requests with the precision of a long-time loving partner who honors his mentor. My dentist sanded and polished, turned and shaped the provisional molar cap that he had created with a malleable impression material. I could feel his love for his chosen work. and wondered if perhaps he had a genetic [...]

Sharing IS the Essence of Loving

After almost one month in France, the tasks of re-entry on our return seem routine: David turns up the heat, programs the phones back to the answering machine default, coordinates mail retrieval, reconnects the laptop to the networked printer. This trip he also tracks down delivery of the missing suitcase, follows up on details that developed after his wallet was stolen, and coordinates our (as well as his) calendar commitments. Meanwhile, I check in with people, balance the checkbook, monitor [...]

2018-01-31T21:05:16+00:00April 19th, 2016|Categories: Intimacy, Marriage, Paris & France|Tags: , , |

Discriminating Among Levels of Reality

"Mommy, how do the people get into the television?” “What do you think?” “I think they are in balloons on timers inside the TV and when it’s time for their show they inflate and come on the screen.” The links between the real that she knew – actors and actresses playing roles on Sesame Street – and that which she did not – a transmission of information invisible to her senses – were inconceivable to my concrete three year old [...]