As infants, we suffered distress to teach us to reach out for comfort. We formed expectations for whether or not comfort would be provided consistently and with generosity of spirit. Those expectations form the basic data for “Attachment theory”, long ago validated in infants and documented in adults for decades. But regardless of our attachment styles – and thus expectations – we still can require comfort as adults. When love in the form of comfort is freely offered, its reality – and power – can change those expectations and get an upward spiral of trust spinning in the right direction. To read more about when comfort may be called for, how to provide it, and why responding to the need for comfort can be a powerful way to express love, read 52 Ways to Show I Love you: Provide Comfort, first published in PsychologyToday.com, by clicking here.
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