Source: Kaz/Pixabay When we or someone we love faces a change of role, of home, or of responsibilities, we can show love by preparing for changes together. In a unique way, getting ready makes you ready. Whether you chose an approach that is driven by an ultimate destination or one that evolves organically, you honor your relationship when you navigate the transition collaboratively. To read more, see my post in "Life, Refracted" on PsychologyToday.com by clicking here. [...]
Source: Rawpixel/Pixabay Throughout our lives, conditions inside us, around us, and in the larger world can demand that we change in response to shifts that occur. Such changes present unique challenges to love relationships. Read my 51st post in "52 Ways to Show I Love You" on "Life, Refracted" at PsychologyToday.com by clicking here.
Source: geralt/pixabay Life does indeed have negative experiences and too much negativity can challenge our relationships. The good news is that negative experiences can be transformed. Consider taking a new look at moments that have nothing to do with us, times we misunderstand one another, our underlying assumptions, and ways in which we may assign blame. To read about these examples and some ways to approach them, read my post on PsychologyToday.com's "Life, Refracted" by clicking here. [...]
Source: Alexa/Pixabay We have many choices in how we feed the bodies, minds and souls of those we love. In this post from Psychology Today's "Life, Refracted", I explore the role that culture plays in making those choices and in assuring that they are meaningful, whether we are nourishing someone through food and drink, information, energy or inspiration. To read the post, click here.
Source: MichaelGaida/Pixabay Moments that change our perspective, our mood, our behavior, perhaps even our lives, can happen so quickly - yet their impact can be enduring. To read a reflection on what makes a moment so special, how it affects us, and how it can be an expression of love, read my post in "Life,Refracted" at PsychologyToday.com by clicking here.
Through stretching our bodies, minds and relationships, we nourish love. We honor the old, accommodate to the new, and let go of the unnecessary as we make space for reaching towards each other and out into the world. For the Life, Refracted post "Showing Love Through Stretching", continuing the series of "52 Ways to Show I Love You", click here.
I met Mark when my children were young, after he joined the dental practice of my uncle who treated adults (me among them). Although he, too, cared for adults, Mark specialized in work with children at that time. My kids must have been among the first patients in his new office. The years passed and eventually my uncle retired. When Mark began working on my teeth, I appreciated his dedication to his art, a passion for precision and perfection that [...]
The funeral was short, meaningful, perhaps a quarter hour of memories and prayers. A daughter had organized a slide show of his life, in chapters. Childhood. Marriage, a union that had lasted more than sixty years. Military service. Children. Work. Grandchildren. Travel. Adventure. The sanctuary was crowded. He had touched many lives and we wanted to say goodbye. To pay tribute as his soul moved on. Presenting the American Flag My husband and I had not been close [...]
A recent local news release brought the story of Nicholas Doddo, a college student, who risked his own life to save that of another young man whom he had never seen before. Sitting in Friday evening traffic on the Tappan Zee Bridge, Mr. Doddo had suddenly realized that someone was racing headlong to the barrier with the intent of jumping over it to his inevitable death. Mr. Doddo’s instincts led him to leave his car, cross traffic lanes in [...]
A neighbor from the days when our children were small recently sent me the obituary for the woman who had lived next door. I had known Paula as the woman who gave out particularly treasured Halloween treats and who played the piano, sending musical beauty across our lawns when spring days led us to open our doors and allow screens to permit more transparency. I also knew that she had been an accomplished nurse and had continued to work at [...]