Source: Bru-nO/Pixabay The morning of October 5, 2021, The New York Times republished a July 13, 2012 article written by Alex Williams, “Why is it hard to make friends over 30?” Williams considered his own experiences and the social science research, citing conversations with two of my favorite experts on personal relationships, Laura Carstensen, who has helped us understand “socioemotional selectivity”, and Rebecca Adams, the authority on episodic friendships. Williams laments the challenges we face in developing [...]
Source: bngdesigns/Pixabay Valentine's Day evokes all kinds of feelings in people, often those drawn from childhood memories or internalized from commercial messages. To take another look at the complex emotions involved, read my recent post on "Life, Refracted" at PsychologyToday.com
Source: sasint/Pixabay As 2017 drew to a close, I contemplated the last of "52 Ways to Show I Love You". The year had offered opportunities to explore so many facets of love and ways to express it. I felt profoundly grateful, but also ready to move on. There were so many other things I wanted to say - about love and loving, about gratitude for a life of living and learning lessons (some of them quite challenging), about [...]
Source: Kaz/Pixabay When we or someone we love faces a change of role, of home, or of responsibilities, we can show love by preparing for changes together. In a unique way, getting ready makes you ready. Whether you chose an approach that is driven by an ultimate destination or one that evolves organically, you honor your relationship when you navigate the transition collaboratively. To read more, see my post in "Life, Refracted" on PsychologyToday.com by clicking here. [...]
Source: Mariolh/Pixabay When we feel an impulse to bring a loved one a gift, heightened consciousness can help us make a perfect choice. To examine types of gifts your might consider, your reasons for wanting to offer it, and the impact you hope it will have, read this post from "Life, Refracted" on PsychologyToday.com by clicking here.
Source: GoranH/Pixabay After discussing what might motivate a person to interfere with your couple or disturb your tranquility (click here), I explored the way that those motives might become translated into behaviors (click here). To examine how you might identify such a threat and approach dealing with it, see "Learn how to deal with people toxic to your couple" by reading this post from "Life, refracted" in PsychologyToday.com by clicking here.
Source: Olichel/Pixabay Understanding the motivations of those who may threaten a love relationship is one thing. Common motives are described here. Identifying behaviors through which those motives are expressed is a separate task. To review a list of behaviors that can undermine the integrity of a couple, create conflict within it, or derail one partner with resulting damage to the couple relationship, read my post from "Life, Refracted" on PsychologyToday.com by clicking here.
Source: cocoparisienne/Pixabay When a third-party behaves in ways that challenge your couple, begin by considering possible motivations that may have set their behaviors in motion. To consider several of the most common ones that can result in destructive responses, read this post from PsychologyToday.com's "Life, Refracted" by clicking here.
Javier-Rodriguez/Pixabay The therapeutic technique of "Interior Monologue" has been around for decades. It can be useful in many situations, and especially in helping manage a love relationship. To better appreciate what an interior monologue is and can be, how it might be useful in a relationship, and why it can be so effective, read my latest post from "Life, Refracted", in PsychologyToday.com by clicking here. .
comfreak/Pixabay When we allow our imagination to show us possibilities, we can better see the ways in which we are experiencing love and would like to express it. All sorts of information is available to us when we tap into the unconscious stream that brings us memories - or even new constructions - of sensory experiences. Read my latest post for PsychologyToday.cpm, "Life, Refracted", by clicking here.