Close Relationships

Contemplating Valentine’s Day, 2018….

Source: bngdesigns/Pixabay Valentine's Day evokes all kinds of feelings in people, often those drawn from childhood memories or internalized from commercial messages. To take another look at the complex emotions involved, read my recent post on "Life, Refracted" at PsychologyToday.com

To Show Love, Receive With Grace

Source: BattershellTactical/Pixabay So often our early experiences interfere with responding to others in a fully open way, free of distortions or interpretations that have little or nothing to do with their intentions.  Similarly, our emotions can cloud and misdirect our responses to the gifts of others.  To consider how we can best receive offerings from those we love, read my post from "Life Refracted" on PsychologyToday.com by clicking here.

2018-01-31T21:03:54+00:00December 24th, 2017|Categories: Attachment, Close Relationships, Life, Refracted|

Beware Behaviors that can Threaten a Love Relationship!

Source: Olichel/Pixabay Understanding the motivations of those who may threaten a love relationship is one thing.  Common motives are described here. Identifying behaviors through which those motives are expressed is a separate task.  To review a list of behaviors that can undermine the integrity of a couple, create conflict within it, or derail one partner with resulting damage to the couple relationship, read my post from "Life, Refracted" on PsychologyToday.com by clicking here.

What Motivates Those Who Threaten Your Relationship?

Source: cocoparisienne/Pixabay When a third-party behaves in ways that challenge your couple, begin by considering possible motivations that may have set their behaviors in motion.  To consider several of the most common ones that can result in destructive responses, read this post from PsychologyToday.com's "Life, Refracted" by clicking here.

2018-01-31T21:03:54+00:00December 1st, 2017|Categories: Aspects of Loving, Life, Refracted, Romantic Love|

Find the Silver Lining

Source: geralt/pixabay   Life does indeed have negative experiences and too much negativity can challenge our relationships. The good news is that negative experiences can be transformed.  Consider taking a new look at moments that have nothing to do with us, times we misunderstand one another, our underlying assumptions, and ways in which we may assign blame.  To read about these examples and some ways to approach them, read my post on PsychologyToday.com's "Life, Refracted" by clicking here. [...]

2018-01-31T21:03:54+00:00November 24th, 2017|Categories: Close Relationships, Life, Refracted, Transformation|

Addressing Conflicts Helps Love Grow

Source: amarpreet25/Pixabay Conflict between two people is inevitable. When conflicts of time and place, demands, priorities, power, planning  or how much closeness is optimal erupt, sensitive responses can build understanding and increase faith in the strength of the relationship.  To read 52 Ways to Show I Love You:  Address the Conflicts in "Life, Refracted" on PsychologyToday.com, click here.

A Story of Showing Love Through Food

Randell Dodge with her Mother's Spoon   When Randell Dodge was faced with sudden deaths of those who were closest to her, she turned to baking for solace. Her story of finding comfort in creating beauty for the soul and nourishment for the body led her to change her life so that she could more easily share the love she had felt for her close ones with others.  To read more about her story, see my post on [...]

2018-01-31T21:03:55+00:00September 29th, 2017|Categories: Beauty, Family, Life, Refracted|Tags: , , , |

Silence Can Have Several Meanings

People can sensitively show love by accurately understanding the many meanings of silence.  Before they can respond with love (the topic for next week), they must be able to distinguish among silences that are active listening, time for reflection, avoiding creating distraction, an invitation to communion, attention being elsewhere, delaying confict, or expressing anger.  For details, please visit the latest, "52 Ways to Show I Love You: Identify the Meanings of Silence", by clicking here.

Providing Care is Such a Vivid Way to Show Love

Source: sathyatripodi/Pixabay When a person is dependent - young, old, ill, disabled - or fragile or simply in need of outside help, providing the care that they need can show through actions in a resounding way.  At one extreme, it reflects "Compassionate Love", that altruistic and selfless behavior in which someone else's needs can take precedence over our own.  To read "52 Ways to Show I Love You: Caring and Caregiving", click here.