Source: Bru-nO/Pixabay The morning of October 5, 2021, The New York Times republished a July 13, 2012 article written by Alex Williams, “Why is it hard to make friends over 30?” Williams considered his own experiences and the social science research, citing conversations with two of my favorite experts on personal relationships, Laura Carstensen, who has helped us understand “socioemotional selectivity”, and Rebecca Adams, the authority on episodic friendships. Williams laments the challenges we face in developing [...]
Source: Rawpixel/Pixabay Throughout our lives, conditions inside us, around us, and in the larger world can demand that we change in response to shifts that occur. Such changes present unique challenges to love relationships. Read my 51st post in "52 Ways to Show I Love You" on "Life, Refracted" at PsychologyToday.com by clicking here.
Source: Mariolh/Pixabay When we feel an impulse to bring a loved one a gift, heightened consciousness can help us make a perfect choice. To examine types of gifts your might consider, your reasons for wanting to offer it, and the impact you hope it will have, read this post from "Life, Refracted" on PsychologyToday.com by clicking here.
Source: GoranH/Pixabay After discussing what might motivate a person to interfere with your couple or disturb your tranquility (click here), I explored the way that those motives might become translated into behaviors (click here). To examine how you might identify such a threat and approach dealing with it, see "Learn how to deal with people toxic to your couple" by reading this post from "Life, refracted" in PsychologyToday.com by clicking here.
Javier-Rodriguez/Pixabay The therapeutic technique of "Interior Monologue" has been around for decades. It can be useful in many situations, and especially in helping manage a love relationship. To better appreciate what an interior monologue is and can be, how it might be useful in a relationship, and why it can be so effective, read my latest post from "Life, Refracted", in PsychologyToday.com by clicking here. .
comfreak/Pixabay When we allow our imagination to show us possibilities, we can better see the ways in which we are experiencing love and would like to express it. All sorts of information is available to us when we tap into the unconscious stream that brings us memories - or even new constructions - of sensory experiences. Read my latest post for PsychologyToday.cpm, "Life, Refracted", by clicking here.
Source: MichaelGaida/Pixabay Moments that change our perspective, our mood, our behavior, perhaps even our lives, can happen so quickly - yet their impact can be enduring. To read a reflection on what makes a moment so special, how it affects us, and how it can be an expression of love, read my post in "Life,Refracted" at PsychologyToday.com by clicking here.
Source: janeb13/Pixabay When differences resulting from limitations or preferences, wants or needs, or simply the extent of intimacy desired, present challenges to people who love each other, accommodation can be called for. Dealing with them with sensitivity and care can show love in a powerful way. To read my "Life, Refracted" post in PsychologyToday.com about this topic, click here.
Source: Pexibear/Pixabay As described last week, silences can have many meanings. In this week's post for "Life, Refracted" on PsychologyToday.com, I explored loving ways to deal with each of them. Read more about ways to respond to a loved one's silences by clicking here.
Source: AGuen/Pixabay Sometimes a person is dependent on others for whatever needs doing. Whether a crisis, an ongoing commitment, or a one-shot opportunity, pitching in allows unique expressions of love that show, rather than tell, your love. For more thoughts on this topic, read my Life, Refracted post on "52 Ways to Show I Love You: Pitching In", just click here.