The last four years have seen two major breakthroughs from astronomy that will forever alter our world view. In March of 2013 the CERN officially announced the results of two sets of experiments at its Large Hadron Collider that had been unofficially publicized several months earlier ( A new particle named the Higgs Boson, perhaps occurring in different variations, was identified as responsible for mass and its transformation. The Higgs Field in which it occurred was not an electromagnetic one. A puzzle posed by the Standard Model of Particle Physics had been solved by measurement made possible by the giant “Collider”. (see for more detail.)

Then in February of 2016, the LIGO Laboratory recorded the sound produced when two black holes collided, proving, through the creation of a new means of measurement, that allowed for transformation of motion into sound, the existence of gravitational waves ( A hundred years earlier, Albert Einstein had reasoned that they must be “real”, but until an interferometer measured the ability of gravity to squeeze light waves, to stretch and shrink space, and thus produce sound, the belief remained theoretical to many people’s perception. A new approach, like a new angle into the prism, had been necessary to shift our perception of our world. (For discussion, see

More than two decades ago, Imants Baruss, a Canadian psychologist, demonstrated that theoretical physicists are the most likely people among those in many lines of work to believe in a “radically transcendent world view”, one that permits the kind of bending of space and time and transformation of mass documented by the LIGO and CERN laboratories. What will it take to prove to the atheists and agnostics and other secular doubters that love is real?

In 1992, I signed up for three years of postdoctoral training at Yale Medical School, sponsored by a fellowship from the National Institute on Aging. I was determined to prove that some of the lessons taught me by my patients were “true”, and I knew that the “harder” science of Epidemiology was likely to be more persuasive to positivist populations than the softer science of psychology. Over the three year fellowship training then ten years of investigation as a Research Associate, I was able to document that soft data – specific configurations of closeness in older married couples – could produce a hard outcome, mortality. Along the way, my earlier studies were able to document that “emotional contagion” could – but also might not – exist in these couples, contributing to spouses’ influences on one another, depending on their marital dynamics. Judith Wallerstein did a qualitative study of married couples at about the same time with results remarkably consistent with mine ( But does the world believe it? It’s complicated.

Screen Shot 2016-05-06 at 10.18.59 PMLove can be attachment but it is more. Love can be passion but it is more. Love can be compassion, but it is more. Love can be friendship, but it is more. Love can be sharing and caring and considering another’s welfare before one’s own, but it can be more. In response to future blogs, please send me stories of your experiences that love is, indeed, real. Perhaps together we can discover a new way to measure the invisible that will persuade some nonbelievers to think about the gift of life from a new angle of the proverbial prism.