Murchison Falls By mindfully listening to information from inside you - your body, stream of consciousness, dreams, impulses, and what you are making of it all, you have tools to better care for yourself. Only when you can address your own needs with reverence, respect and love can you adequately show that love to others in your life. Read more in my post on Life, Refracted, by clicking here.
From earliest days, a person can learn love through the teachings of those who love him or her. Take a moment to think about ways you have expressed love through teaching skills, information, perception, savvy - or ways in which you have felt love when you have been taught. Click on the Life, Refracted post here.
52 Ways to Show I Love You: Recognizing the Relationship Understanding and honoring the "we" transcends meeting individual needs. Source: takazart/Pixabay On February 26th, the film La La Land, nominated in 14 categories, won six Academy Awards. Musicals have always been my favorite film genre, watching dance my favorite spectator entertainment. From Busby Berkeley through Fred Astaire and Leslie Caron to Gene Kelly and now Robert Fairchild, I feel the thrills of freedom and yearning in a dancer’s movements as I watch, [...]
One letter at a time/Unsplash When I was a child, I was slow to speak. Family lore had it that I ran before I was a year old but waited until I had passed my second birthday to utter a word. At that point, sentences tumbled out of my mouth. Maybe writing is like that for me now – so much mulled over across the years, so many ways of expression considered. Today, convinced that my journey and [...]
Photo by epicioci/Pixabay This week’s topic pushed me into a careful consideration of words and their nuances. Ten days after a significant surgical repair, I was feeling profoundly grateful for all the caregiving provided by my loving husband and I wanted to write about "Caregiving" — providing help to someone who needs it. But “Caregiving” conjures up images of dependency more profound and perhaps more permanent than I wanted to address. Similarly, “Support” didn’t capture the phenomenology of need. I was indeed dependent [...]
Where to go? What route to take? Photo by Antranias Every day we make countless choices, some consciously and many unconsciously. Do we look at our motivation? The consequences of the countless decisions that affect our relationships? Through them, we are forever balancing closeness and distance, self-interest and that of the one whom we love. What do we need and want? What does the other person need and want? With the transition to parenthood, we learn to [...]
To make us more aware of all the ways we can make love real, that we can show "I Love You" both with and without words, each Sunday I am posting a piece on PsychologyToday.com describing the what, how and why of another way to express love. Today's entry describes "Touching" and appears here. Please send me your own stories of ways you show love or feel it coming from someone else. I will keep track of them and [...]
Today, I am delighted to wish you a Happy New Year. May the year 2017 bring you excellent health, many joys, and the very brightest of discoveries. I am also delighted to share my first column for "52 Ways to Show I Love You", written for my blog on Psychology Today, "Life, Refracted". You can sign up to receive the column directly from Psychology Today on that page or on my own website. If you sign up to automatically receive [...]
Dear Reader, I have been neglecting this blog for weeks, ever since I began posting more scholarly or professional pieces as a regular column, “Life, Refracted”, on PsychologyToday.com. The links to those essays appear on this website, under “Articles and Essays”. How did this come about? In the spring of 2016, in support of Miracle at Midlife: A Transatlantic Romance, my publicist suggested I write “10 Things About Long-Distance Love”. Soon I realized that I had far more than ten [...]
A sense of sisterhood runs deep. In a recent article in the New York Times, Natalie Angier reported on female bonding in bonobos. She described a species equal to chimpanzees in biological closeness to humans and intelligence, but radically different in social organization and mores. Bonobos are matriarchal instead of male-dominated, cooperative rather than competitive. They nurture their young rather than murder them, and they are quick to help or protect one another when need arises. They share, rather than fight [...]